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Wednesday, January 17, 2018

Realitiy is no longer allowed to enter my house

Reality is how we make it

   "Let's be realistic"   I've heard the line so many times.   Too often it is used to shut down beautiful plans, plans that could have created happiness. 
It is bull shit. A self fulfilling prophecy: if you start working on your dreams filled the thought that you are actually crazy and unrealistic ... you WILL fail, concluding that those who had warned you were right. You might even join their ranks and discourage others with that same line.

   Reality, dear people,  is not a given thing.  It's under construction.   And people's attitudes are the most important tool in shaping it and making it either beautiful or harsh and cold.
   It's hard to explain how reality is everything but reality...  I hope a simple example will do the trick. 

   Imagine yourself asking somebody for a loan for a fun and sort of crazy business plan you've got.  Inside you wonder whether it will work out and whether it is actually right to borrow money for it.  The person whom you are asking for a loan,  will sense this.  And it will affect his judgment of your plans: he sees someone who is not strong enough to carry out the businessplan. So you will not get the loan.
   Had you felt inspired and energetic, ready to give your all to your new business, this positive energy could have affected the other person and a "yes" , the loan,  would have been likely.
   Carry that happy attitude throughout your business and its chances of succeeding are so much better..   Your crazy plans have BECOME reality!
    In other words:

Your attitude shapes Reality!!

   Please assume a positive attitude as often as you can. 
   That is actually like the Buddhist Karma.... positive behavior  from you,  creates a world with more positive vibrations.  Karma is not a reward system, you will not be paid back directly, one deed for another.  But a world with more positive vibrations will affect your life too.

The drawback of shaping Reality together

   Yes, this used to be my vision on Reality.  However there is a problem ...
   There are still too many people who hold on to a negative attitude. The "I believe it when I see it" attitude of skeptics who cannot accept a true fact when the mechanism behind it is not proven by science.
   The cowardly "as long as I'm not hurt" attitude , used by people who cling to silly bureaucratic procedures, so they will not be blamed when things go wrong.  Even though this might hurt others.  (Actually, this attitude opens doors for wars and genocide).
   The list of negative attitudes is endless, let's not sum them all up. It makes me, and you, too sad to function.  Those negative people don't want to get you down intentionally, but the result is the same.

   I am about to have a serious relapse in my burn out  just by trying to break through barriers thrown up by employees of  two important and several minor organisations.  It wears me out.
   Conclusion: one person's positive energy cannot outweigh the rigidity of many who cling to procedures for their own safety. 

   Now if there was a strong network of positive thinkers who could help each other get up again, help each other fight for a more positive Realitiy ... like that V-shaped flock of geese who are taking over when the one up front is tired...    [they do cross many many miles that way! ]   .. yes, then I might just make it.  But I'm not in such a network right now. I don't even know if there is one.

cc  by-nc 2.0  phot by JB Banks  Text Joyce Meyer 

A desperate attitude

   My new attitude towards Reality is to avoid it.  Negative, maybe. It look like I actually did join the ranks of those who want to feel safe. The difference is that I will not be applying senseless rules and procedures dictated by realistic people.  On the contrary.
   My (soul) home's my castle. Reality  - in any hideously disfigured shape -  is not welcome here.  If it forces itself a way in...  it will be thrown out a.s.a.p. And given the silent treatment until then. I can no longer invest in trying to turn wrongs into rights. Please pass me by!

   This blog and my new parallel blog inspired by trees and flowers,   will cover only dreams and hopes and all "things impossible" from now on!!

I now fully agree with Dorothy Gilman's  'Miss L'Hommedieu' :

"Once I met with Reality
and found it so chillingthat I have avoided itever since."

Monday, November 14, 2016

Reconnecting with the Soul

The Soul-woman within me
should be resting
in my sacral cradle.

Make her mystic meals
in the abdominal cavity
and do her life's  work
right here from the heart.

But she is not
She is held captive
high up in the tower 
past its ivory gates

I'll have to drive my dragon-bike
from Chicago to L.A.
breaking barriers to set her free

Saturday, July 16, 2016

Animals needing help.

I got another urgent mail from Michelle of the L.A. Rabbit Foundation. It seems that bunnies keep coming in at the shelter.  From the Netherlands it's hard to help, but maybe you, dear reader, can?

Please visit:

Thursday, November 26, 2015

A new backpack

In Dutch there is a metaphor in which a backpack signifies the load of life experiences or physical complications one carries into the future. Sometimes the backpack is replaced by a suitcase but the metaphor stays the same.

I have been having some real backpack troubles a few weeks ago. 

My favourite backpack was a blue-green one that I bought one or two years ago in a time in which I saw how my relationship with my mother had truncated my own personal development. Now it was time to work on my own life and I loved the coincidence of owning a new backpack while making a new start.
Over time I started to embellish the backpack with artificial flowers.  It was a game with a very simple rule: the flowers should not have been bought, begged for or stolen. I would either have to find them or receive them as a gift. As it turned out they were all single flowers, lost by their owners, lying bedraggled on the sidewalks or in the grass borders along the streets. A colourful mix of rejects showing off their worth on my bag. I fear I identified myself with them.

And now the zipper had given in... just while I had no money to have it repaired and wasn't able to repair it myself....
But no problem... I kept the bag for show and dug up an old backpack I got through the food bank, upon which I depended 5 years ago. Not exactly a favorite, but still pretty good.
That's what the cat thought too, when he used it instead of the litter box, making it totally unsuitable for buying food. Even carrying other stuff in it didn't sit well with me...
In only a couple of days I had lost two backpacks. My shopping tour for an affordable one did not pay off, so I settled for using my other bags instead. Who needs a backpack? 

A little while later.... just when I was not looking for a backpack, but only for comfort by visiting a dear friend and going out shopping together... did I run into it... the perfect backpack: the right size, beautiful color and a not too common design. All this and still fitting well within my budget. I took it from the shelf thinking how I didn't need it... I was doing pretty well using my shoulder- and handbags... but suddenly my heart leaped and I saw Serendipity smiling at me from behind the store's rack, whispering that it had a different value... worthy of a new blog post.

I saw what she meant. A new start. Letting go of old views and values. Even better: a backpack is not for carrying around old pain, it's for carrying what you can use to build the best possible future. It's a tool bag!

No longer asking Why but How...
For so often I have analysed why I have stranded in the here and now. I think I did find the answer.  But it's only of use if I see its lesson, get off my ass and walk again. Carrying only the new wisdom, not its history, with me.
I shouldn't put my dysesthesia and tinnitus in my backpack and definitely not the story of how I got them.. But the new life style, the techniques and list of good foods that are beneficial in my current physical condition.
And I have a lot of new 'things'  -sorry folks-  to put in my backpack: from dog walking and yoga to a whole bunch of new friends. 
The hike would no longer be about looking back to see which stone has "made"  me trip (huh huh.. I tripped over it) but about looking around to enjoy the view and  looking forward to see what should be my next step. 

If you pack your backpack that way, you are traveling as light as you can.

Hm, wonder what the beautiful cognac color of this new bag might signify :)

 Here -in Dutch- the solution Brigitte Kaandorp found for her life's suitcase ... leaving it behind. If you like it, you can keep it, but you'd better not.