Reality is how we make it
"Let's be realistic" I've heard the line so many times. Too often it is used to shut down beautiful plans, plans that could have created happiness. It is bull shit. A self fulfilling prophecy: if you start working on your dreams filled with doubts created by this lie... you WILL fail and say that those who had warned you were right. You might even joined their ranks.
Reality, dear people, is not a given thing. It's under construction. And people's attitudes are the most important tool in shaping it and making it either beautiful or harsh and cold.
It's hard to explain, I hope a simple example will do the trick.
Imagine yourself asking somebody for a loan for a business plan you've got.
If your attitude is one of doubt, or any other negative basic thought, the question will come out wrong. The person whom you are asking for a loan, will sense this. And it will affect his judgment of your plans: he sees someone who is not strong enough to carry out the businessplan. So you will not get the loan.
Had you felt inspired and energetic, ready to give your all to your new business, this positive energy could have affected the other person and a "yes" , the loan, would have been likely.
Carry that attitude throughout your business and its chances of succeeding are so much better.. they become "realistic" :) In other words:
Your attitude shapes Reality!!
Please assume a positive attitude as often as you can.
That is actually like the buddhistic Karma.... positive behavior from you, creates a world with more positive vibrations. Karma is not a reward system, you will not be paid back directly, one deed for another. But those positive vibrations will reach you too, being there for everyone.
The drawback of shaping Reality togetherYes, this used to be my vision on Reality. However there is a problem ...
There are still too many people who hold on to a negative attitude. The "I believe it when I see it" attitude of skeptics who cannot accept a true fact when the mechanism behind it is not proven by science. The "as long as I'm not hurt" attitude , used by people who cling to procedures. Even if they hurt others, as long as they followed procedures.. they cannot be blamed for anything. (Actually, this attitude opens doors for wars and genocide). The list of negativity is endless, but let's not sum them all up. It makes me, and you, too sad to function.
Those negative people don't want to get you down intentionally, but the result is the same.
I am about to have a serious relapse in my burn out just by trying to break through barriers thrown up by employees of two important and several minor organisations. It wears me out.
Conclusion: one person's positive energy cannot outweigh the rigidity of many who cling on to procedures for their own safety.
Now if there was a strong network of positive thinkers who could help each other get up again, help each other fight for a more positive Realitiy ... like that V-shaped flock of geese who are taking over when the one up front is tired... [they do cross many many miles that way! ] .. yes, then I might just make it. But I'm not in such a network right now.
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My newest view on reality
My (soul) home's my castle. Reality - in any hideously disfigured shape - is not welcome there. If it forces itself a way in... it will be thrown out a.s.a.p. And given the silent treatment until then. I can no longer invest in trying to turn wrongs into rights. Please pass me by!
This blog and my new parallel blog inspired by trees and flowers, will cover only dreams and hopes and all "things impossible" from now on!!
I now fully agree with Dorothy Gilman's 'Miss L'Hommedieu' :
"Once I met with Reality
and found it so chilling
that I have avoided it