How can you know a friend is
true?
Friendship should make one feel happy,
right? But not just in receiving. In giving also. And maybe not
straight away, or not at all times. And maybe not that exuberant kind
of joy, but one like little gems you can make a necklace with after a
long time. Or that you carry with you in your 'pocket' [your
memory; translator's note.]
Fact is true friends don't
leave when things are going bad. That's when they support you. Or you support them.
Just watch ... any help from a friend triggers
the wish to pay it back. Or forward.
I do not agree with Ecclesiastes, when
he claims that Frustration is better than laughter, because a sad
face is good for the heart. (Eccl. 7:3).
I remember feeling very tired once,
while on my way to my work. I was fearing the next 6 hours I had to
spend behind my desk... At a crossing I had to slow down my bike to
let an elderly woman cross the bike path with her shopping trolley.
She stopped and motioned for me to go first. Slowly I increased my
speed... then she smiled at me. And I smiled back at her. In that
short moment, in which we made a connection,
I felt all my wearyness disappear. I felt wide awake and strong and
relaxed.
Now which friends make me feel that
way? Joyful, supported, supportive and connected.
What about the High Self Esteem I'm so
often writing about? Without it, you will not act, having been
delayed by doubts and being put off by your fear of failure. With
sufficient Self Esteem you will either know you won't fail, or simply
not mind failing [failing can be fun and it opens
doors].
Self Esteem is not like being vain or egocentric. It simply makes you
feel comfortable around others and you connect to others easily. You don't pull away, being too shy, but you 'radiate' something that disarms others. It
is allowing you to spontaneously help and share, because you don't
believe that people will turn your offers down disdainfully. Self Esteem definitely is a
true friend.
I
don't like naming the obvious true friends... did you think of this
candidate: Responsibility? True friend or false friend?
Irresponsibility, after some unthoughtful acts, leaves you in the midst of havoc and remorse. Definitely a false friend.
What does Responsibility create? It makes you a person who wants to
act wisely, a person who will deserve respect -and no doubt
will get it from those who are wise enough to recognise its value-.
It will keep you far away from regretting things, so you can spend
your talent, your power, on going after your soul's deepest wish.
Answer:
true!!
Last
but definitely not least ...Lady Love, Lady Fear's antagonist... Love, not to be mistaken for lust, is
not exuberant. Yes it is a happy and powerful feeling inside you, but
it remains modest even though it's as strong as steel. To me, it
gives a sense of fulfilment. Love can make you laugh or jest, but it
is not flaunting, fleety or flamboyant. Yes it is flaming, but
without burning you up. It warms you and everyone around you. What
more heart warming friend can you wish for?
Love
is patient and kind.
Love
knows neither envy nor jealousy.
Love
is not forward and self-assertive,
nor
boastful and conceited.
She
does not behave unbecomingly,
nor
seek to aggrandize herself,
nor
blaze out in passionate anger,
nor
brood over wrongs.
She
finds no pleasure in injustice done to others,
but
joyfully sides with the truth.
She
knows how to be silent.
She
is full of trust, full of hope,
full
of patient endurance.
[1
Corinthians 13;4-7]
Jo